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Invitation Ettiquite

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Invitation Etiquette

Photo by Chuck Collier
Photo by Chuck Collier
 Planning a wedding can be one of the biggest and stressful events in your life, not only are you facing all the things for the event itself, such as the wedding ceremony, the minister, catering and florist, just to name a few, there is also invitation etiquette to remember.

• Contact the officiant or Clergyman and locate ceremony and reception sites before making any other plans, such as ordering invitations or hiring any vendors. This is why hiring your coordinator should be the first thing on your list.
 
• There are many wedding website options available these days. ($75-$100 for 12 months) www.weddingwindow.com is my favorite! It is helpful to create a website, listing all of the travel info, accommodation ideas and things to do in the area for your guests. Put your website address on your “Save the Date” cards so your guests have plenty of time to plan their travel arrangements.
 
• If you choose a colored ink for your invitations, address them in the same color ink.
 
• Keep your invitations in the same mode as your wedding. Something rustic gives the impression that the wedding will be a real Montana event even before the wording. By the same token, a formal church wedding pleads to be treated with dignity - the time proven standard engraved invitation. Most of all have fun and choose something you love.
 
• If there is a child involved from a previous marriage, it is courteous to invite the grandparents.
 
• Honor a deceased parent in other ways, but do not include the name on your invitations.

• Do not abbreviate words when addressing invitations - with one exception. The United States Post Office prefers the name of the state be abbreviated.
 
• When two unmarried people live together, the names are put on separate lines, in alphabetical order.
 
• When parents are divorced but remain on friendly terms, the invitation can be issued jointly. The mother’s name is listed first. “And” is not used to join the names.
 
• When a wedding invitation is issued by a mother and stepfather, the invitation may read “at the marriage of her daughter” followed by the bride’s full name on the next line.
 
• When there have been several marriages and divorces by the parents of the bride, it is often kinder for the bride and groom to issue their own invitations.

• Do not enclose information about your bridal registry with your invitations. People can find out the old-fashioned way - by asking or you can create a website and list your registry details on it.  Be sure to list your website address on the invitation if you have one.

• It’s not courteous to ask for money or mention a money tree. The dollar dance is still popular at some weddings and is the best way to ask for donations.

• Although you may have maintained a friendship with a guy you broke up with years ago, invite him only if your fiancé is comfortable with having him there. 

• If you do not want children at your wedding, do not include their names. Add ADULT RECEPTION on your response card.

• If you receive a response card that includes uninvited children, call the parents and explain the situation. Maybe offer to provide a baby sitter.

• If children will be invited to the reception, provide a couple of babysitters who are responsible and experienced to provide activities for the kids and give the parents a chance to enjoy themselves. Remember to have "Kid Friendly" food and drinks available.

• About 2 weeks before your wedding, go over the guest list and call anyone who has not responded. Politely say that you have not heard from them and you are afraid they did not receive the invitation due to the mail service.